From: redbird	Date: August 25th, 2008 11:07 pm (UTC)		(link)

I've been discussing this with mrissa, and it turns out we both have similar reactions: we don't make time-dependent plans with such people. But we'll happily have email exchanges with them; we'll hang out with them at parties or cons that we're both at; and I'll do things like say "I'm going to be at thus-and-such location tomorrow afternoon, drop by if you like," but also take a book or such. When I was in college, I had a friend who was frequently late, always with reasons that seemed plausible to me. What I wound up doing was either "I'm getting lunch at thus-and-such, join me if you like," get my lunch and grab a table, and either eat with him or have my lunch and go on about the day; or go knock on his door when I was ready. For the latter, it helped that we lived in the same dorm.