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This article was going around Facebook:

http://www.parentcentral.ca/parent/babiespregnancy/babies/article/995112--parents-keep-child-s-gender-secret

This reminds me of the anecdote about psychologist Sandra Bem's son, as told in her book An Unconventional Family. One day her four-year-old son, Jeremy, decided to wear barrettes in his hair to school. She wrote:
Several times that day, another little boy had asserted that Jeremy must be a girl, not a boy, because "only girls wear barrettes." After repeatedly insisting that "Wearing barrettes doesn't matter; I have a penis and testicles," Jeremy finally pulled down his pants to make his point more convincingly. The other boy was not impressed. He simply said, "Everybody has a penis; only girls wear barrettes."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sandra_Bem

This entry was originally posted at http://firecat.dreamwidth.org/722713.html, where there are comments.

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e4q
May. 24th, 2011 09:09 pm (UTC)
everybody has a penis
precious.
chaos_by_design
May. 24th, 2011 10:52 pm (UTC)
Barrettes are the great penis destroyers of our time. :P
clawbug
May. 24th, 2011 11:57 pm (UTC)
Freud would have been proud of Jeremy :-D
vito_excalibur
May. 25th, 2011 03:07 am (UTC)
The other boy was clearly ahead of his time in terms of understanding the irrelevancy of biological sex to performative gender!
innerdoggie
May. 28th, 2011 10:17 pm (UTC)
Indeed!
xiphias
May. 25th, 2011 11:47 am (UTC)
I used to wear barrettes when I was a small child, too. My mother told me that people might mistake me for a girl if I did so. I asked her why that would be a bad thing. She said that, if it didn't bother me, then it wasn't a bad thing, and bought the barrettes for me -- she had just wanted to let me know.
pyrzqxgl
May. 30th, 2011 11:33 pm (UTC)
When my older son was quite small, he explained to some people (at the local LGBT center, of all places) that the difference between girls and boys was that girls have contact lenses and boys don't.
firecat
May. 30th, 2011 11:54 pm (UTC)
I love it!
gmdreia
Jun. 24th, 2011 09:23 pm (UTC)
I used to think that the difference was that boys had short hair and girls had long hair, and being rather secure in my gender identity, I was HORRIFIED that my mother wanted to cut my hair into a short page-boy instead of letting me grow it long.

Nice to finally meet you, by the way! I've run into you off and on over the years in various friends' LJ threads, and around the web.
firecat
Jun. 24th, 2011 09:25 pm (UTC)
That would have been scary!

Nice to meet you too. (*bows*) I can see there's lots of good stuff to read on your journal...
gmdreia
Jun. 24th, 2011 09:27 pm (UTC)
Not much yet, as I've recently relocated from another journal, but hopefully there'll be more as time passes. :)

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