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http://captainawkward.com/2013/01/05/429-430-when-depression-is-contagious/

Via [personal profile] wordweaverlynn, very interesting conversation about relationships in which one of the partners is depressed.

My comment:
Person with depression here. (Although mine is somewhat better managed than that of the people discussed by the LWs (I do the dishes without being asked. Most of the time)).

I loathe the idea of a partner limiting zirself by staying with me primarily because zie feels sorry for me or feel I can't manage on my own. If zie feels burdened by the relationship then I want zir to leave.

I haven't ended my relationships over this, because my policy is to believe my partners are capable of making their own decisions about our relationship. And because "I should dump my partner because I'm bad for them" has the suspicious resonance of depression. But it's not depression talking when I say I truly want my partners to be with me only because they want to be.

This entry was originally posted at http://firecat.dreamwidth.org/794709.html, where there are comment count unavailable comments. I prefer that you comment on Dreamwidth, but it's also OK to comment here.

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epi_lj
Jan. 6th, 2013 11:51 am (UTC)
This is true for me too.
graymalkin13
Jan. 7th, 2013 11:54 am (UTC)
I'm really glad you posted this link. The material is extremely helpful to me -- it's very timely.

I agree with everything you say in your post.
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