February 21st, 2001

red panda eating bamboo

posted to alt.polyamory

I find it really hard to tell when a sign of trouble is going to turn into a relationship destroying force. I sometimes stay in the relationship longer than I should, or don't call the sign-of-trouble for what it is because I'm afraid of the fallout.
red panda eating bamboo

posted to alt.polyamory

(1) because people change, rules should be re-negotiable
(2) because people don't like change, rules shouldn't be re-negotiated on little whims
(3) everybody has stuff they can't handle (boundaries or limits)
(4) rules of living have to fall within the boundaries or folks won't be content
(5) everybody should be prepared that at some point things might go wonky and they might have to leave.