April 4th, 2001

red panda eating bamboo


Warriors don't give up and decide "Um, I can't do that" if they fail.
They get up and try it again. If they have a self-assessment (do they
have self-assessments? Is that why they have teachers, because they
don't want to spend any of their mental energy on self-assessments, they
just want to do? I'm not sure I want to be that kind of warrior) it's "I
haven't succeeded at that yet." Warriors also don't decide "I don't want
to do that." Want isn't really a part of their vocabulary. They do
stuff. I cannot be that kind of warrior either. I have to keep track of what I
want as well as what I do. However, I might be able to put on that
attitude more often.
red panda eating bamboo

"Choosing" to be big? Not necessarily.

I don't think most people can subconsciously control their weight for psychological reasons. Scientists have done studies of twins (raised together and apart) and their weight is usually very similar even if they have different lifestyles and had different upbringings. The conclusion to a study like this is that weight has a very large genetic component.

I'm uncomfortable with the notion that most people are subconsciously choosing their weight, because that implies if you are big, there is something wrong with your head.

There are enough people who think there is something wrong with my body because I'm big. I don't really want them to all think there is something wrong with my head too!

Relating it to sexual orientation: At one time I had all sorts of psychological theories about why I couldn't make up my mind whether to be with men or women. Then a smart therapist said "Maybe you're just bi." I realized all my theories were unnecessary -- I didn't have to make a choice.

In other words, having plausible psychological theories about why one is big doesn't necessarily mean that's why one is big. It means that one feels the need to justify being big. That's understandable in a society that believes there is something wrong with being big.
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