If you think the object of the social game is to "never bother anyone"
or "have everyone like you," then for sure it isn't fair or winnable.
Not by anyone. But if the object of the game is to "find a few people
you get along with," then it's winnable because you don't end up losing
if you happen to bother some people.
Another goal to play the social game for might be "Develop the ability
to get along with more people." Yet another goal to play for might be
"Understand all the ways people can be different, so that if someone
gets bothered, you have a better idea of why."
So which goals are you playing for?