October 27th, 2003

red panda eating bamboo

Are you two-faced?

I made some comments about this in someone else's journal (the entry is friends-locked, so not identified) and it got me to wondering.

If you have a problem with how someone behaves--
  • Under what circumstances do you tell them?
  • Under what circumstances do you not tell them but tell other people who know them?
    • If you tell others, do you care whether those comments to get back to the person?
    • If you want that not to happen, do you do anything to prevent it?
    • Do your prevention mechanisms work?
  • Under what circumstances do you not tell anyone (or only one or two confidants)?

If someone has a problem with how you behave--
  • Under what circumstances do you want to be told?
  • Under what circumstances do you not want to be told?
  • Do you think people say things behind your back that are different from what they say to your face?
    • If so, does this bother you?
    • If it bothers you, do you do anything about it?
    • What do you do?