June 17th, 2005

red panda eating bamboo

"Is there some way for me to help these women believe that they are beautiful?"

This is a post I made to alt.polyamory in response to someone's asking "is there some way for me to help these women believe that they are beautiful just the way they are?"

("these women" = "overweight" friends who believe they are fat and ugly. The writer says "'fluffy' women are beautiful! Women are supposed to be soft." Note, I'm repeating these exact words of the writer because I address these specific words in my post. I am not repeating them to invite scoffing at them.)

My reply:

Your best bet on helping them is to ask _them_ how you might help them.

But here's how I personally like to be helped about that issue. Note that I am a size-acceptance activist, so what I like is probably different from what some people who aren't size-acceptance activists like. Collapse )