I get lonely under two conditions. If either of these conditions applies, I will feel lonely whether or not I am around other people.
1. I am tired. (I was happy when I figured that one out. If only everything were fixable by having a good sleep!)
2. I am depressed. In which case it might seem from the outside that I am choosing to be lonely, because I tend to act cranky and cynical, which drives people away. But I am not choosing. One way that depression manifests itself for me is that I have a lot fewer behavior choices.
Comment on loneliness, and on the theoretical existence of people who "want to be miserable."
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