http://gressive.circlet.com/?p=35
My story and several others from the anthology were on the Tiptree longlist for 1996, but I didn't find out until 2003, when I went to Wiscon for the first time. I wrote about it here: http://firecat.dreamwidth.org/218513.html
*"Gressive Press publishes sex-positive science fiction/fantasy outside the binary, which celebrates genderqueer, genderbent, transgender, polygender, bisexual, bigendered, and other identities outside the boxes set by mainstream understandings of gender and sexuality."
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