"23 signs you're secretly an introvert" by Carolyn Gregoire
Starts out well:
Think you can spot an introvert in a crowd? Think again. Although the stereotypical introvert may be the one at the party who's hanging out alone by the food table fiddling with an iPhone, the "social butterfly" can just as easily have an introverted personality.Then ignores all that in favor of a list of traits that introverts supposedly have.
Bold = I have it
You go to parties — but not to meet people. "At a party, most introverts would rather spend time with people they already know and feel comfortable around." I want to spend time with people I know AND with people I don't know. The people I know make me feel more comfortable around the people I don't know. But yeah, my goal in going to parties is not to "meet" the people I don't know, as in exchange phone numbers. It's to have conversation with them. Or just enjoy the party.
You often feel alone in a crowd. Um yeah, but most of the extroverts I know say they feel the same way.
Networking makes you feel like a phony. They define this as "Small-talk with the end goal of advancing your career". Kind of. But when I'm in the context of something interesting that happens to also involve networking (e.g. Wiscon) it doesn't feel phony.
You're easily distracted. "in environments with an excess of stimulation". One reason I do poorly at e.g. dinner parties or cocktail parties is that I often can't concentrate on one conversation long enough to participate in it.
Giving a talk in front of 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterwards.
When you get on the subway you sit at the end of the bench, not in the middle because "We're likely to sit in places where we can get away". Actually my preferred spot used to be in a corner or against a wall. Lately that's been trumped by the "getaway" spot, but not because of introversion. It's because I'm fatter than the spaces between seats in most public venues so if I don't sit on the end then everyone has to get up to let me out, and I don't like to inconvenience people that way.
You start to shut down after you've been active for too long. Um, doesn't everybody?
You're in a relationship with an extrovert Yes, and also some introverts.
You have a constantly running inner monologue. To the point where I spend most of my time shutting it out with reading, or an audiobook, or music, because my inner monologue gets really nasty.
You've been called an 'old soul' -- since your 20s. Teens
You look at the big picture. "Introverts do really enjoy abstract discussion". Yes to both, but they are two separate statements.
You've been told to 'come out of your shell' Yes, in social situations "or participate more in class" No, I am a loudmouth in class or very structured social situations (e.g. support groups).
You're a writer.
You alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity.
This entry was originally posted at http://firecat.dreamwidth.org/820345.html, where there are comments. I prefer that you comment on Dreamwidth, but it's also OK to comment here.